This needs to be said.....
It makes no sense to me why we as people (especially us BLACK people) have a tendency to over stress things. Most of the confrontations we face, the arguments and cases of depression comes from the small things!
For instance, I met this guy, and he seems really cool. We vibin' and everything, talking about music (which is my favorite subject) and what we both like and dislike. So when it came down to linking up to go out together, our schedules were not allowing it, especially mine. Not that I was purposely making myself busy, I just genuinely had a lot of things to do. We attempted to meet up 2 times, and in those two times something had come up. Then all of a sudden he starts acting funny, talking about what I say and do are 2 totally different things. Where did that come from? He states that because of the fact that I was so busy at the time, he couldn't take me serious...Basically he is VERY judgmental. Well I set him straight with that and explained that these things happen, and if he is going to judge me by it then clearly I am wasting both of our time. Well, he got over it and we finally linked up.
Now, when we linked up, everything was ALL good....And remained that way for about 2 weeks. Then, one night when I am online, he jumps on and we start chatting. Usually when I step away I do what we all do, I say "BRB" or "hold on a minute". I didn't do that this time. I stepped away without saying anything and I could not have been gone for more than 3 or 4 minutes. The topic we were talking about was personal, and I guess because I didn't respond to him in time, he got upset. WHAT? WHY? He didn't want to talk to me anymore, and I could sense his vibes (thru the computer) that he was in a foul mood. I couldn't believe it though. Why in the world is dude getting mad over me stepping away from the computer?? I even apologized and explained why I stepped away (which, BTW, I didn't have to). But here's the topper, I decided to be a bigger person and call him the next day (I could still detect that he was upset). When I called him, I told him I just want to clear the air because I wasn't purposely being inconsiderate, and that I didn't think it was a big thing to be upset over. And you know what? He was STILL upset!
I say all of that to say this, Life is way too short to be stressing small stuff, especially when you could be going through far more worse things. We all have a tendency to over-stress things, but we need to check ourselves from time to time. There is more to a friendship, a relationship then just constant arguments.
Let's get over ourselves and start being more positive.
That's all from Miss Diva!
Ciao!
For instance, I met this guy, and he seems really cool. We vibin' and everything, talking about music (which is my favorite subject) and what we both like and dislike. So when it came down to linking up to go out together, our schedules were not allowing it, especially mine. Not that I was purposely making myself busy, I just genuinely had a lot of things to do. We attempted to meet up 2 times, and in those two times something had come up. Then all of a sudden he starts acting funny, talking about what I say and do are 2 totally different things. Where did that come from? He states that because of the fact that I was so busy at the time, he couldn't take me serious...Basically he is VERY judgmental. Well I set him straight with that and explained that these things happen, and if he is going to judge me by it then clearly I am wasting both of our time. Well, he got over it and we finally linked up.
Now, when we linked up, everything was ALL good....And remained that way for about 2 weeks. Then, one night when I am online, he jumps on and we start chatting. Usually when I step away I do what we all do, I say "BRB" or "hold on a minute". I didn't do that this time. I stepped away without saying anything and I could not have been gone for more than 3 or 4 minutes. The topic we were talking about was personal, and I guess because I didn't respond to him in time, he got upset. WHAT? WHY? He didn't want to talk to me anymore, and I could sense his vibes (thru the computer) that he was in a foul mood. I couldn't believe it though. Why in the world is dude getting mad over me stepping away from the computer?? I even apologized and explained why I stepped away (which, BTW, I didn't have to). But here's the topper, I decided to be a bigger person and call him the next day (I could still detect that he was upset). When I called him, I told him I just want to clear the air because I wasn't purposely being inconsiderate, and that I didn't think it was a big thing to be upset over. And you know what? He was STILL upset!
I say all of that to say this, Life is way too short to be stressing small stuff, especially when you could be going through far more worse things. We all have a tendency to over-stress things, but we need to check ourselves from time to time. There is more to a friendship, a relationship then just constant arguments.
Let's get over ourselves and start being more positive.
That's all from Miss Diva!
Ciao!
posted by Alicia Johnson @ 11:37 AM
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